First Post of the New Year

It’s been awhile since anything was posted to this blog. Reality and life kind of set in and there seemed to be one issue occurring after another, leaving me in a frantic “I can’t get my life back on track” sensation lately.

Before this moment, I actually couldn’t think of what the last post I even attempted was. There was a list of posts I was planning on writing out, but with everything that’s been going on in the last month, I simply just did not have the mental energy or physical time to sit down and do them.

Christmas was hectic. Norovirus has ran rapid through our family, starting with our 5 year old, and anyone who has had this year’s winter bug, ….it’s painful. I currently am trying to overcome my turn of it after six days. The pain is absolutely the worst part of it and the more I think about it, the more I feel horrible and upset that my little girl had to go a week of being in this pain, and I couldn’t do more for her when she had it. I feel awful knowing she was going through what I’m going through now.

Christmas Eve I was in the hospital for contractions that lasted all day long. By 8pm that night Em was being dropped off with my parents and I was being checked into the hospital. NOT how any mom wants to spend their Christmas Eve. I have a tradition of wrapping all Em’s presents after putting her to bed and watching It’s A Wonderful Life all night. Well this year was very different. Luckily the problem was simple, my fluid levels were intensely low, making me contract. So after a ton of IV fluids were pumped into me, I was cleared to go. It was definitely hard being away for Christmas Eve night, and after the awful day we had from Em not being able to participate in Christmas Eve due to her belly pains, I had a good cry that night. But of course if I hadn’t gone to the hospital, I would have gone into active labor and even more problems would have happened from having the baby too soon.

Besides this awful bug, I’ve also just been an emotional wreck lately. I am currently 36 weeks pregnant, and up until last week, our nursery was still a storage room. We spent the entire week after Christmas cleaning out the room and buying furniture for it. It’s still not perfect, walls aren’t painted and the door needs replacing, it’s nowhere near the Pinterest perfect nursery I’ve been dreaming of. But it’s cleaned out, and made into a very nice, simple nursery that puts my mind at a comforting ease. We finally have all the baby gear we need, all the baby furniture. I’m sure there are going to be more things we will need to pick up here and there after baby boy is here, but all I can say is THANK THE HEAVENS the majority of it is done.

The amount of stress that this relieves is astronomical and I feel like I can breathe and focus on everything else that is going on around me now.

Except now I’m just waiting out this bug, so I can get all the Christmas stuff down and put the past few weeks behind me. My nesting is picking up a lot again, mostly because I’ve been preoccupied and slightly neglected regular housework, but being sick for six days straight and can’t get off the couch has put a major hold on what I’m capable of doing around the house. All I can think about now is wanting the Christmas stuff put away, the house being straightened up, and everything being neat and tidy and ready to go for when the baby comes.

Of course, I just hit 36 weeks, so I should theoretically have a few more weeks to go to get my house in order enough to meet my obnoxiously clean standards. But it’s down to the final count, the final minutes, the finish line is in sight. It’s making me go crazy!

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Baby Preparation List – Third Trimester Update

Third trimester update

Pregnancy Checklist

Well this is it! The home stretch! The third trimester is here! As of today, I am in my 30th week. By this time, the wee baby should be around 17 inches long, and should weigh close to or slightly more than three pounds. Roughly the size of a squash you can find in your produce store..which does not seem so wee-sized when it’s taking up all the room inside your abdomen!

I’ve decided to use this time to make a general checklist of everything I need to do/get done within the next 10 weeks, and to just update on my current goings on at 30 weeks.

Starting this list off – by this time, if you are pregnant, you should definitely have had the ultrasound that will determine the baby’s gender, if you choose to know or to wait. Waiting seems to be a trend that is growing in popularity lately, especially for first time moms I’ve noticed. We chose to know what our baby was, so I had mine done at 24 weeks. Even though waiting would be a great surprise, finding out makes buying and preparing SO much easier. Easy is always nice.

That being said, since I haven’t announced it yet….

IT’S A BOY!

And we are ecstatic! We were hoping for a boy this time, but the J-man hubs kept teasing, saying I was going to jinx it if I kept talking about wanting a boy. Of course, we would have been happy with either, but a boy would have been a new experience, and J-man hubs said he was feeling a little surrounded by too much estrogen in the house. Growing up with a sister, me, and a daughter, a boy in his life seemed well deserved.

Having knowing what it is, planning a baby shower was a lot easier. It seems to be the norm to wait generally after 30 weeks to have a baby shower, but I had mine the first weekend of November (I will share details too!)

I highly recommend having an earlier baby shower. At some point, you will be in the large, uncomfortable, don’t want to get up and move stage. Having a baby shower before then would mean being able to actually get up and interact with everyone without being tired and uncomfortable. Also, my biggest reason for having an early shower was because it still gives me several weeks to finish getting everything together and getting the remainder of the baby gear and nursery together.

We have YET to start the baby nursery at all…seriously slacking in that department. However, I would like to share the rest of my Baby To – Do list with you. Not that everything on the list needs to get done, but it does help kind of set goals for yourself for big things that need thought put into them

Day Three – Patience


I am very behind with writing these posts for my own challenge. But that is the point of a challenge, I should remind myself of that. It’s the night of the 3rd day and I can almost guarantee that it won’t be posted until tomorrow…which then mean I will have to finish this, post it, write out the day 4’s post, and then post it as well. Maybe I need a little more patience with myself before I attempt to rush this post…
Today I am supposed to be thankful for patience. While I’m sitting here, trying to write this post, going over certain moments in the day that I could apply this patience concept to, I’m also mentally making lists in my head of what I need to get done the next day while also being attacked from the inside.

I’m a week and a half away from being in my third trimester. Shocking isn’t it. I’m also late with doing a pregnancy update. It’ll happen. I just feel so scatter brained lately that it’s hard to concentrate on doing little things lately. The thing is I’m not stressed like I thought I would, I just feel busy. Overly motivated with a lack of purpose. While I know that I still have a good handful of weeks before anything needs to be done, I feel so unprepared for this baby lately. Pretty sure my family is tired of hearing my baby talk lately too.

Luckily they have patience with me.

Ah, there is the segue I was waiting for. Patience is not normally my forte. I have a temper that flicks on like a faulty switch and an attention span that of a goldfish. Maybe that’s why I have been making myself unnecessarily busy – because I just want everything that needs to be done, to be done already. Waiting for things to get done in their own time is not exactly one of my favorite things, however, it’s one of those unspoken things we are constantly trying to teach our children from the moment they figure out how to get our attention.

“Wait a minute please. Give me two seconds, okay? Let me finish this first. Hang on a moment. I’m busy right now. Can it wait? Can you wait?”

All words and demands we ask of our little ones without giving it a second thought. Have you ever had one of those moments? Those moments where what you’re doing is just slightly more important than your toddlers playdoh creation that they really want to show you. Or how about being on a phone call and your kid needs to ask their 50th question in the last half hour, do you ask the person on the phone to wait, or the child? Here is one I’m always guilty of… How about when you are in the middle of doing something, anything, and your kid just came to ask you to play. “I can’t right now, wait a minute.”

The words flow out of my mouth without even registering what I’m saying. I instantly imply that she needs patience. I am truly blessed that I have a child who is as understanding as she is, and pauses whatever it is that she asked me for, and waits. This is something I need to change. I am thankful for the patience that she has for me.

App and Book Recommendations for Expecting Mamas

From one expecting mama to another expecting mama…


25 weeks pregnant!

I have made it to 25 weeks! So I thought I would do a little recommendation post for any fellow Preggo Moms out there 🙂

This is will be our second child and things are just completely different this time. I’m actually staying up-to-date and keeping track of my progress this time, which is great because I’ve had so many problems and worries, keeping track is wonderful source of info to reassure myself everything is right on schedule. If you are preggo I highly recommend getting development tracker. There are wonderful books to read while you are pregnant, knowledge is power. My favorite books I’ve read so far this pregnancy are

What to Expect When You’re Expecting

https://www.amazon.com/What-Expect-When-Youre-Expecting/dp/0761187480

This is probably the most common and recommended book to read while pregnant, so it’s a no brainer, but it’s wonderful with lots of info. If you are a first time mommy, this is a great way to just feel a little more prepared for the journey to come. It has a month by month layout and summaries very clearly what to expect. If it’s there is something to be concerned about or if it’s something as simple as morning sickness, this book will cover it.

I also REALLY enjoyed a more nonconventional pregnancy book called Belly Laughs: The Naked Truth about Pregnancy and Childbirth by Jenny McCarthy.

https://www.amazon.com/Belly-Laughs-Naked-Pregnancy-Childbirth/dp/0738210072

It was less of a factual guide as the one mentioned above and more of a realistic view of her experience. This was definitely a great freshness from the constant medical terminology of pregnancy and the never-ending facts about the miracle of pregnancy, because let’s face it, not every moment feels like it is a great miracle! When You are laying naked on a couch trying to get comfy with back pain so bad you feel nauseous and a hot flash so bad you’re radiating heat…miracle might be a stretching word. This book read so well it felt like just chatting up a fellow girlfriend about the struggles you’re going through! Big recommendation!

 

While we are on the subject of keeping track, I’ve also been loving this little app that has a week by week progression. I downloaded The Pregnancy Tracker from What to Expect onto my phone and it’s very handy way to track your progression, check day to day advice, and connect with other moms in the community. It alerts you at the start of each week, shows you your progress from baby size to baby development and even what you and your body will be going through in the week to come. It has fabulous articles about all things parenting and pregnancy and helpful hints. Did I mention how easy it is to use it! Trust me it’s great!


Also, keeping a Pregnancy Journal is a great way to keep on track with everything. You can write down where you are in comparison to where you should be. You can write down what you’re feeling, thinking, great news that week, little reminders of Drs appts, what you’re craving, and even how much the baby is moving. They have plenty fill-in-as-you-go pregnancy journals to choose from, but I personally chose to just use my bullet journal to write down practically everything I want to remember about that week. It’s nice because I also refer to my app to jot down little notes about how big the baby is that week.

 

Pregnancy Announcements

 

As I stated in my last post, we’re pregnant for a second time! I am now 24th week, (6th month for those who don’t speak pregnancy) and am due in early February/end of January. Due date is a little sketchy…but sometime within that week of the last day of January to the beginning of February, there should be a baby! We, of course, are insanely excited. There is a significant amount of courageous excitement this time as opposed to terrifying nervous excitement that happened the first time around. The first time around, were both only 18 when I found out I was pregnant, SO this time I’m feeling a little more prepared for what’s about to happen.

Now, since I’m crazy excited about this pregnancy, so excited we actually started trying before our wedding last December (2015), I started making pregnancy announcements the exact moment I had a positive pregnancy test. We told our parents first, of course the grandparent’s needed to know before all else! For my hubs parent’s we had our daughter announce it to them. We had just explained it to her that day as well, and she was super excited. She was so excited that the moment she saw them we gave her permission to run up to them, her arms flung open, and she just let out the loudest “MY MOMMY IS HAVING A BABY IN HER BELLY!”

For my parents, we waited until we were able to sit down and have dinner with them. I had bought a tiny pair of fuzzy slipper socks, newborn size, stuffed them in a tiny box with a note that read

Bowties or Bows

No one will know!

Coming 2017

 

It did take her a minute to figure it out, which I thought was hilarious. It went from an “aww” to a sudden squeal of realization. Same with my dad… From a “hey..” to a “HEY!” This was so fun I decided to do the same with everyone else online.

I spent a good while going through multiple ideas. PINTEREST, you are a wonder when it comes to baby announcements. There were some pretty good contenders, and some really, REALLY awful ones. I don’t think a picture of a woman hovering over a toilet with a caption reading “It’s not a hangover this time” is exactly cute….

These were some of my favorite ideas…

 

Big Sister being the star

“And then there were four”

Bun in the oven

Poppin Bottles

Brownies because pregnancy hunger…

Most adorable shoe collection

Ornament family of all sorts

But in the end, we decided to go with our daughter and a simple sign…and the best child reaction ever!